Why You're Already Worthy (Despite What You've Been Told)
In 1927, a young man of 32 contemplated taking his own life.
He had been pushed out of his position at work, had no savings, and had a family to care for, including a newborn baby girl.
What happened next changed the entire trajectory of his life. The man was Buckminster Fuller, and he went on to develop 28* patents, write nearly 30 books, and receive 47 honorary doctorate degrees. He committed himself to pioneering solutions that would improve human lives.
It's also a lesson for what can happen in our own lives if we just believe in our significance and committing to see what each of us are capable of contributing to changing the world and benefitting all humanity.
It all begins with changing your beliefs around your worth.
Here are five ideas you can adopt to radically change the way you see yourself and the value you already have.
THE SMART BETTER LIFE™️ PODCAST | September 19, 2023
posted by Annie Bauer
Why You're Already Worthy (Despite What You've Been Told) | Ep 004
1 - You're worthy just because you were born.
Most of our civilizations around the world base a human's worth on criteria like performance, status, education, and the like. We then believe we have to measure up to some set of criteria in order to be worthy.
But what if you could just decide to believe that you're worthy because you're here? What if you just chose to believe that your existence is enough?
According to Dr. Richard Schwartz, a Harvard faculty member and founder of IFS, at the core of each of us is a fundamental centeredness called Self. It is the core of who we really are and is distinguished by eight characteristics, also called the 8 C's:
- Calm
- Clarity
- Compassion
- Creativity
- Curiosity
- Courage
- Confidence
- Connectedness
There is a lot of evidence in many different philosophies that Self is related to the soul . . . or just "who you are". This Self possesses its own wisdom. As Jonathan Van Ness says in his book Over the Top, "the centered Self is perfect and whole and can handle anything". It doesn't have anything to do with how society, culture, or even religion judges us. It just exists.
2 - You're worthy now. Just exactly the way you are.
In the book, The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown writes “If we want to fully experience love and belonging, we must believe that we are worthy of love and belonging. When we can let go of what other people think and our own story, we gain access to our worthiness–the feeling that we are enough just as we are and that we are worthy of love and belonging.”
She goes on to talk about all the ways we say or think, “I’ll be worthy IF” or “I’ll be worthy WHEN”.
The message is this: We are worthy NOW. As is.
What if you could hold onto that thought until it became such a strong core belief that you never doubted your worth?
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3 - You have something to share that is valuable to others.
You are unique. Your set of experiences, trials, and tribulations have given you a perspective and wisdom that no one else has. It’s your gift, and I might daresay, even your obligation, to share it with others.
For me, being able to take events, hardships, and even really difficult people in my life and turn them into wisdom has given the struggles meaning. I have been forged in the Fire of Difficulty. And now I can be there for others who are going through their own transformations and lessons.
4 - You have infinite potential.
This is just how we are made. How do I know this? Because your brain never ever stops learning, growing, and evolving . . . even up to the moment you die. At every level of new growth, then there is a new you with new wisdom and knowledge (and potential) to share. Who you are and what you can do has no finite end as long as you’re here.
We could even surmise that you make an impact on the world, for better or for worse, that has some sort of effect that is left behind even after you’re gone. That means your infinite potential lives on indefinitely. We get to decide then, “How are we going to direct the course of that?”
You get to choose right now what you want to do with your potential and how you want to direct it. But it IS, indeed, infinite.
5 - Your mistakes increase your worth.
We often think we aren’t worthy because we have made mistakes in our lives.
But actually, our worth increases because of our mistakes or the things that didn’t work out in our lives or businesses . . . when we choose to learn from them. All the mistakes each come with the experience and wisdom of having gone through them. You can then shortcut the time and friction then for someone else.
How to start believing you're worthy
- You Could Just Decide
- Hang Around More People who Believe You're Worthy and Who Tell You So
- Find qualified help from a coach or expert who is trained to help people strengthen their belief in themselves.
- Trust yourself.
“There is one great truth on this planet: whoever you are, or whatever it is that you do, when you really want something, it’s because that desire originated in the soul of the universe. It’s your mission on earth.” --The Alchemist, page 24
Believe that you are worthy. That you did originate in the soul of the Universe and therefore, your worth is inherent and not determined by others or external factors.
What if you truly leaned into this belief? What could you create from a place of worth? How much better and stronger would you be to commit to your mission on earth, what you could accomplish, who you could impact, and how you might make a difference?
(*Buckminster's patents: one source we found said 25 patents and another 28. In our episode, we use the number 25, but have updated it here to reflect what the linked source provides.)
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